In my modest opinion marriage is one of the most difficult agreement that any two consenting adults (male and female) can decide to have. Marriage is difficult because the two parties involved are both coming from different backgrounds, different upbringings and sometimes different environments.
In order for continuity of the human race and to populate the earth as God has commanded the early human beings, marriages must be contracted. Not to say that marriage is a must, as it still remains a matter of choice nevertheless marriage is very important for procreation.
But the sad realization of our times is that there are as many divorces as there are marriages in the 21st Century. The essence of marriage is just no there anymore.
Many out of love jump into marriages, forgetting that love constitute just a fragment of what it takes to be happily married and to stay in that marriage till ‘death do you part’. I’m not in any way an expert in marriage. But from my observation over the years of many failed marriages and some literature available on failed marriages, I see a trend.
While couple seeking counsel before marriages is a positive sign and should be encouraged, prospective couple should understand that to make marriage work it is paramount they put in the right ingredients.
Just like preparing a sumptuous meal, marriage must be approached with the right ingredients to make it fruitful and lasting. I am not the first person and I will probably not be the last person to touch on these ingredients for good marriages topic. However, I am looking at these ingredients for the already contracted marriage.
I will develop on the ingredients in my subsequent write-ups meanwhile I will recommend the following ingredients for a good marriage:
- Staying in touch with each other
- Act of kindness
- Focus on the strength of each other