Embracing the new beginning! 

After the dust has settled, after all is over you need to make a fresh start. You can’t continue to look to your past achievements or failures expecting them to bring you success in your future endeavors.

Most undertaking in this life comes with a deadline. Just as our lives here on earth are numbered so are the challenges we come across in life. It doesn’t really matter how the previous encounter ended, whether you had achieved your goals or not, there is always an opportunity for a fresh beginning.

Champions, winners are constantly looking at ways to improve their games in order to stay relevant in competitions. They do not by any means rest on their past exploits because they know staying a champion is even harder.

Each day comes with it the potentials of redefining our priorities. That is the reason you can’t live in the past. If for any reason the past should rather gear you up for other challenges.

As humans, we have a constant struggle to be better than we used to be. However it is impossible to become better when you are latched on to the past. The past is a definition of how it all ended and how you fared: succesful or a failure.

No matter what transpired in the past, the fact that you’re alive and kicking means you can always become better and that’s the absolute truth.

We should begin to embrace the notion of a new beginning to really take control of our destiny. We can’t be comfortable with the success or be afraid of the pains of yesterday if we want to be on top of our game. You see until the dust is finally settled on your life, you should be constantly reinventing yourself.

You will realize that life is more exciting when your past doesn’t define who you’re today. All the things you thought weren’t at your reach become clearer in your vision and you are content even when you don’t reach them when you understand that there’s always a new beginning.

Image Credit: https://www.insiderfinancial.com/wp-content/uploads/2016/06/fresh_full.jpg

Advertisements

Weakning my fears by staying positive all the time.

A young lad I’m mentoring called me early one morning before his last terminal exams paper and questioned me about having fears. This is the conversation that ensued between us.

Patrick: Hi bro Steve, what’s up ? 

Me: Good morning Pato I’m good, how are you? 

Patrick:  I’m fine just that I have some questions bothering me that I hope you can help me clear up.

Me: I see. Okay go ahead and ask

Patrick: Do you sometimes experience fear? 

Me: Lol yea. In fact I do most of the time

Patrick: Really? 

Me: Yea. Now tell me why the thought of having fears is eating you up ? 

Patrick: Hmmm. I’m afraid not to live up to expectation. Tomorrow is our last paper for the term and looking back I think I haven’t really giving out the best of me during this examination and I’m afraid this term results may not be what I usually get.

Me: Hmmm. 

Listen, from my personal experience I’ll tell you that it is normal to have fears. Fears actually helps to put things in perspective for you. Most of the times when I experience fears, it tells me I need to rethink my outlook about life and work on me to become better.

You see the thing about fear is that it is a constant reminder that we are mere mortals and not the super hero we sedate ourselves to believe we are. When I am experiencing fear it tells me my relationship with God and people isn’t alright or there’s a faulty ideology that I’m holding on to. 

As for me fear helps me to work on me to become a better me. It gives me that window for internal inspection. Fears guides me to realign my life with the originator of my life. I do fear but rather than let my fears cripple me into inaction it becomes the fuel that drive my good intentions.

Fear motivates me to be good, honest and kind others. It drives me to accept challenges admitting to myself that I may not succeed but wouldn’t know this if I don’t try.

Patrick: Wow, that is a tall order. Thanks so much bro. I’ll ponder over this hopefully it show me the way to work around my own fears.

Me: Okay. That’s a start. But remember everyone experiences fears one way or the other. Some people are just good at handling their fears than others. It’s up to you to decide where you want to belong.

Patrick: Great. I will think about it. Thanks

Me: You’re welcome. All the best in your final paper.

Image Credit: https://s-media-cache-ak0.pinimg.com/564x/94/91/7a/94917a534ceb8df2ad139df06c55c9f3.jpg

Motivating my depressed self: Overcoming the internal demons

I have experienced depression several times in my life. My first experience with depression is the cruelest of all, I almost lost my sanity during that process. Fortunately for me I had by my side a loving and attentive mother who though without formal education quickly identified my predicament. She did all in her might to cheer me on to appreciate the beauty of life and to smile again.

With that initial exposure to depression and overcoming it by relying on my mother’s tender loving care, I had the tendacy to look up to others when I’m in such gloom state.

However I quickly realized growing up that not everyone would have for me the patience and love of my mother when I’m depressed.

So I needed to find the resources within myself to overcome depression. I must admit that nobody puts depression on their to-do list but it happens in the most uncertain circumstances.

Therefore arming oneself with the knowledge to fight that internal demon can only be a good thing. Don’t we use to say “prevention is better than cure”?

I belong to that category of people who get depressed very often as a result of many aspect of life. So for me it was paramount that I deal with the issue starting from me and by me. I want to share with you today some helpful tips to overcome depression.

So here we go: 

– You must begin by accepting the fact that something is eating you up and draining your positive energy which is resulting in you being depressed. Self denial of your predicament can only accentuate your depression and prolong the healing process.

-Once you have accepted that you are depressed, get closer, even more closer to the things or activities from which you used to derive some joy. You see when you get into the routine that characterized the You before depression even minimally you begin to plug into your positive energy. When you do this continuously you regain at least partial control over your emotions.

-You have to come out of the closet, get into the social sphere and breathe life around you. This in my personal experience is the hardest to do but contributes immensely to the healing process. 

-Talk about how you feel to the people who you care about and who probably care about you. When this stage happens the other way round that is people begin to ask you what’s happening to you there is the tendency to feel like you’re a failure. So be bold and talk to others.

The most important thing to know about overcoming depression is to know that whatever caused it or is causing it, will pass and you have no reason holding on to it. You are not going to be the first to be depressed and neither will you be the last, one single incident or accident however you look at it shouldn’t deprive you of the joy of living. You Only Live Once, wake up and smile again.

Image credit: http://blogs.jpmsonline.com/wp-content/uploads/2014/11/borderline_personality_disorder.jpg

What’s up with our politicians?

Frankly and seriously speaking I’m appaled by the unconcerned attitude of our leaders when we have terrible issues confronting our very existence. When it’s to campaign for election or re-election their voices are the loudest.

However they seem to lose their tongues when it is most crucial to the very people whose vote they sought for during campaigns.

I’m beginning to believe that in Ghana politicians know only how to jump at each others throat.

I mean if it is to denigrate, accuse and call their opponents all sort of names they (politicians) are most visible. Today, Ghana is confronted with two major issues: galamsey and the acts of terror groups or vigilantes as they want to call themselves. All of these are happening under the full glare of our lawmakers  but they seem not to be worried. Are they citizens of another state? 

What our politicians know but are looking on as if it is a sci-fi movie is that galamsey and the activities of these terror groups are a real menace to our livelihood and sovereignty.

Here are few reasons I state that galamsey and activities of these terror groups are a menace to our livelihood and sovereignty.

1: The activities of these illegal miners pollute our farm lands and contaminate our crops which could  give rise to food insecurity in the nearest future.

2:  Our able farmers who have no other occupation beside farming are on the verge of joining the unemployed pool which is already full and about to explode.

3:  The pollution of our water bodies is very serious or should I say critical? As it stands now potable drinking water is an unavailable necessity. Polluting the few water bodies from which water is treated or can be treated and made available to the needy populace is tantamount to genocide if you ask me.

4: The acts of the so-called vigilante groups ( I call them terror groups) who don’t have any respect for the rule of law could give rise to insurgence and arm conflicts. You see when a group of people take upon themselves to be judge and executioners it sets a very bad precedence. It signalisation to other such groups that the rule of law no longer works in this country. It makes this country become like the jungle where only the strongest survive. 

For crying out loud Ghana is a country that is govern by the rule of law. Therefore the continuous silence of our leaders in the wake of this menace is intolerable and amounts to treason and they must be prosecuted for this silence.

 Our politicians must start to condemn these acts which have the tendency to disrupt our democracy and distabilize this peaceful country with every bit of pesewa they went into politics to make. They must act and make sure the activities of galamseyers and these terror groups are halted immediately and that is what we expect from them.

Photo Credit:  http://dehapsa.weblog.esaunggul.ac.id/wp-content/uploads/sites/1309/2013/11/What-Do-You-Care-About.jpg

Being a christian in times of adversity: that’s following Christ.

It is easy to trust God when things go the way we want them to go. I say it is way too easy to say we have faith in God when throughout our lives all we see is His blessings around us.

I believe as a christian you know you believe in God when you’re faced with circumstances beyond your control and still manage to keep your eyes on the road. 

The thing about faith in God is to see His goodness and greatness when all odds are against you. When you manage to still keep to your prayer routine, read your bible and still believe God will see you through that’s when you know you have faith in Him.

When you’re not sway but the storms rising up in your life to denounce the promises of the resurrected son of God, Jesus then you know you are a true believer.

The walk with Jesus Christ is not the one that promises all joy and happiness, it is not the journey where tears wouldn’t flow on our cheeks. In fact it is a walk full of challenges, tribulations and pains unimaginable. However, when you walk with Jesus you’re assured,  as a matter of fact you’re guarantee of the light at the end of the tunnel when you walk with Jesus.

As a true christian you must be able to see God’s goodness no matter the circumstances good or bad. You should be able to hold fast to your belief in Jesus Christ especially when the tide is high up and you don’t know if it will engulf you. 

I don’t know what the Holy Bible says but I do not think God has said promised christians a walk without pains or challenges. You see it is up to you, the true christian to demonstrate your faith in the Almighty especially when you fail where you think you should have succeeded. Following Christ shouldn’t be about convenience, it should be a way of life. Let your faith shine where your life is at the crossroad. God will see you through.