A young lad I’m mentoring called me early one morning before his last terminal exams paper and questioned me about having fears. This is the conversation that ensued between us.
Patrick: Hi bro Steve, what’s up ?
Me: Good morning Pato I’m good, how are you?
Patrick: I’m fine just that I have some questions bothering me that I hope you can help me clear up.
Me: I see. Okay go ahead and ask
Patrick: Do you sometimes experience fear?
Me: Lol yea. In fact I do most of the time
Me: Yea. Now tell me why the thought of having fears is eating you up ?
Patrick: Hmmm. I’m afraid not to live up to expectation. Tomorrow is our last paper for the term and looking back I think I haven’t really giving out the best of me during this examination and I’m afraid this term results may not be what I usually get.
Listen, from my personal experience I’ll tell you that it is normal to have fears. Fears actually helps to put things in perspective for you. Most of the times when I experience fears, it tells me I need to rethink my outlook about life and work on me to become better.
You see the thing about fear is that it is a constant reminder that we are mere mortals and not the super hero we sedate ourselves to believe we are. When I am experiencing fear it tells me my relationship with God and people isn’t alright or there’s a faulty ideology that I’m holding on to.
As for me fear helps me to work on me to become a better me. It gives me that window for internal inspection. Fears guides me to realign my life with the originator of my life. I do fear but rather than let my fears cripple me into inaction it becomes the fuel that drive my good intentions.
Fear motivates me to be good, honest and kind others. It drives me to accept challenges admitting to myself that I may not succeed but wouldn’t know this if I don’t try.
Patrick: Wow, that is a tall order. Thanks so much bro. I’ll ponder over this hopefully it show me the way to work around my own fears.
Me: Okay. That’s a start. But remember everyone experiences fears one way or the other. Some people are just good at handling their fears than others. It’s up to you to decide where you want to belong.
Patrick: Great. I will think about it. Thanks
Me: You’re welcome. All the best in your final paper.